Fear is such a terrible disease. It used to keep me from sharing what I had with others for fear of having my gifts rejected. I now understand that whatever gifts we have should be thrown out into the ether, no thought as to what we might receive in return. It’s true, there’s a lot of pain out there. Some people are like tornadoes that will suck up our offerings and spit them out all twisted and deformed by their own fear and suffering. Love them anyway. It is the tornado-like souls who need love most. But sometimes what we throw out there will boomerang back to us in the form of love. It’s our own love amplified by the beauty in the heart of another.
“The heart of the matter is that it is the heart that matters.”
–Dr. Cynthia Thaik, cardiologist
Jesus said that “there is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving.” There is a lot to that seemingly simple statement.
Just like self-love, love for others heals. How we feel about and treat ourselves will radiate out to those around us. Conversely, how we treat others will influence the way we feel about ourselves.
Paul Simon wrote a song about self-imposed isolation called “I Am a Rock.” “A rock feels no pain” say the lyrics, “and an island never cries.” Not true. Don’t ask me how I know. No one is a rock or an island, and when we try to be, we wither. We need love like we need air.
Blogger Lisa Collier Cool says that “love actually can make us healthier, so much so that if you could bottle it, you would have an incredible wonder drug, a Nobel Prize, the thanks of a grateful population, and more money than Bill Gates.” Why? because, as she explains, a growing body of research seems to indicate that “love can lengthen your life, ward off stress, boost your immune system, lower your blood pressure, protect you from colds and flu, blunt your response to pain, hasten wound healing, and lower your risk of dementia in old age.”
Do we really need science to tell us that? Don’t most of us understand on some level that love is life? Nearly every wonderful thing we do, we do for love. And some of the not-so-wonderful things we do are done because of a misguided attempt at getting the love we need. And so we come full circle to the words of Jesus that I quoted at the beginning: “there is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving.” Give love freely with no thought as to what you might receive. Do this, and as Jesus said, “people will give to you. They will pour into your laps a fine measure, pressed down, shaken together, and overflowing.” (Luke 6:38)